1) Do not be unequally yoked.
Take 2 Cor. 6:14 seriously.
Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How
can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with
darkness? (NLT)
If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a
personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire. If you fall in
love, what will you do? Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point
and then hope you can cut it off later.
2) Put on the armor of God daily.
You need all the help you can get in today’s
world. Are you spending time with God? Do you depend on Him to meet your needs
of love and security? You can resist temptation if you put on the whole armor
of God (Eph. 6:10-20).
3) Put obedience over passion.
Not everything we do that’s right, feels good. In
fact, usually the opposite is true. It feels incredibly good to give in to
passion. But, the authority of Christ needs to take precedence over your
physical drives. Society tells you to give in to the moment. Christ tells you
to be obedient to His word.
4) Physical expression must be
appropriate.
Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with
commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. Physical touch
should be in the context of a meaningful relationship, not reduced to
satisfaction of personal need.
5) Limits must be set mutually.
Mutual boundary keeping reflects maturity, hence
you must choose to have limits. When you don't set boundaries, you can be
assessed by anyone.
6) Examine your personal motives.
What is your motivation -- power and control,
gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?
7) Is there too much physical and too
little other?
If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions
are missing or lacking, you are out of balance. If you can’t stand the person
but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship.
8) Less is better.
If one person is uncomfortable with any type of
physical expression, don’t do it. You should respect and honor each other.
Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable.
9) Be guided by love versus lust.
Love is the fruit of the Spirit. From love comes
self-control. Operate in love, not lust.
10) Allow the Holy Spirit to direct and
lead you.
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop
doing them.
Change and allow God to use you.
Special Note: If you are a teen, you
must honor your parents and respect their counsel (Ephesians
6:2-3). You are subject to parental authority. Don’t be sexually active
just because you can get away with it.
Title : Dating rules for Christian Singles
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