Been a talk presented by Elechi Udochi
Alegua during the 2017 Annual Convention of the Anglican Youth Fellowship
St. Michael's Ang. Church Imogu Parish,
Ikwere Archdeaconry
1
Cor. 7:1-9 "Now concerning the matters about which
you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because
of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and
each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and
likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the
husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body,
but the wife does. Do not
deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you
may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan
may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. Now as a concession,
not a command, I say this. I
wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of
one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the
widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it
is better to marry than to burn with passion."
1.
The world doesn't revolve around
you,
say goodbye to taboos
Not to say that you are a
selfish or self-centered person to begin with, but marriage takes the whole
selfless thing to another level.
2. Know
how to cook
4. She/He
doesn't want a maid or a mother/Father, She/He wants a wife/Husband
He wants a partner, someone to be by his
side supporting him and he wants to support you.
5. Know
your rights
6. A
long-lasting marriage is made up of two people who can easily forgive
Guess what? Even after you marry the best
man in the world, he will come with imperfections and faults, and you also come
with imperfections and faults. Learning to forgive quickly is a necessary skill
for a marriage that will last.
7. Learn
to R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Nothing will make him feel more honored
and loved like the gift of your respect. He won't necessarily admit it, but he
really needs it. This is vis-a-vis
8. Don't
expect your husband to be the one to fulfill all your needs
9. Work
on yourself
10. Never
compare your spouse to anyone else
Comparison is just never a good idea,
especially when it comes to your husband. Love and appreciate the man you have.
11. Always
There really is no "normal"
marriage
What does normal even mean anyway?
You and your husband may face totally
different trials or victories than any other couple you may ever meet, and
that's perfectly ok. The important thing to remember is that you and your
husband will face them together, hand in hand.
12. Learning communication skills.
Learning how to effectively communicate with your spouse is extremely important. It is something that we really
have to work on — for most of us it doesn't come naturally. I suggest you read
books, listen to podcasts, go to conferences — anything you can do to improve
yourself on both sides of the communication process, better listening and
better speaking, so your mate will understand you.
13. When
things get tough, don't give up
Unless it is abuse,
infidelities, or illegal activity, don't look for reasons to give up on your
marriage.
14. Make
your spouse your priority
Remember at the end of the day who you
come home to.
Put him first, because he puts you first.
Always remember to make your marriage the top priority in your list of life.
15. Getting
married is the best decision you will ever make
It's going to be a bumpy ride at times,
but you will always be so grateful you got on it in the first place.