Gen. 2:18
"And the LORD God said, It is not good
that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."
The word PREPARE
means:
- to make ready beforehand
for some purpose, use.
- to put in a proper state of
mind is prepared to listen
- to work out the details of :
plan in advance
The Hebrew word translated “help” is
‘ezer or ay’-zer. It means “aid or help.” Many other Bibles
translate this word as “helper” to describe both the person and the
purpose of Eve.
Areas of NECESSARY PREPARATION:
1.
Conquer your insecurities:
- Many
men and women don’t see the full potential God has created them to be.
- Many have
struggled with insecurity, letting it rear its ugly head in their life.
- You are
worth more than you know.
- Be secure in
yourself, that's what brings out the best in you.
- Start by
going an entire week without saying one negative thing about your intelligence,
body, beauty, etc in anyway and see how this will transform your mind in just
ONE week. Now is the time to rid yourself of negativity and
insecurity in your heart and mind not only for your future marriage, but for
your present self and well-being.
2.
Get rid of selfishness:
- When you are
single, all you have to think about is yourself. You pay your own bills, buy
whatever you want, and do whatever you want. When you get married, you have to
put the needs of your spouse and your children above your own, so right now
start thinking of ways to give of your time and resources. So,
- Don’t make
life all about you.
- Learn to give
freely and think of others.
- Only
thinking of yourself can cause huge problems in your future marriage and in
people around you.
- Start with
making your life more than just about you, and this mindset will flow into your
marriage as a result of the changes you make now.
3.
Give more than you receive:
- Throughout
your marriage, you will learn the art of compromising.
- We cannot
enter marriage with a mindset of “me, me, me.”
- How would
you feel if your partner only cared about their own feelings, wants, desires,
and needs?
- Enter
marriage with the mindset to give 100% and expect nothing in return.
- When both
partners give 100%, the result is a beautiful, selfless, love-filled
marriage that becomes a sanctuary for both the husband and wife.
4.
Put aside pride:
- Pride throws
away every friendship, family relationship, and romantic relationship that they
have been established.
- Being humble
takes an awful big person and those are not easy shoes to fill.
- No one likes
to be wrong, but we are all human and we often mess up.
- If you do
something wrong, learn to say sorry, put aside your pride now and pray God
helps you to be humble enough to admit your trespasses.
- It is easy
to assume that in a God given marriage there are no fights, arguments, or
issues. But we are mere human beings who sin on the daily. Learn to say sorry
now so that you and your spouse can both keep bitterness out of your marriage.
5.
Learn the value of commitment:
- Marriage is
not something to be taken lightly.
- God’s design
for marriage ultimately did not include divorce as a cop out.
- When you get
mad at your spouse, you are supposed to fix things, not throw them away.
- While there
are instances where divorce may be the best thing (adultery, abuse, etc) maybe
you should just take a step back, breathe, and work through your problems.
Don’t throw away your marriage based on a temporary feeling. Decide to set your
mindset right now that when you say, “I do,” it is not temporary. Take
your vows literal, till death do us part.
6.
Practice purity:
- No matter
what culture tries to sell you, purity is always best.
- Sex ties
your spirit with your partner, and I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to
be tied to every man I’ve slept with long after I’ve found my Boaz.
- Even if you
haven’t saved yourself, purity begins the day you decide it to put aside your
human nature and culture’s ideas. Purity truly is a higher calling that is so
hard to maintain, yet not impossible.
- But don’t be
fooled, purity of the heart and mind is just as important as physical purity.
Don’t allow your mind be full of lust. Don’t engage in what the sex industry is
trying to sell you. When you practice purity now, it will be beneficial to your
marriage in ways I can’t even begin to explain.
7.
Learn to manage your money:
- Money is one
of the biggest things that couples argue about.
- If you learn
to manage your money now while you are single, it won’t be so difficult when
you get married. (you also might want to rethink marrying someone who is
reckless in their spending habits.)
- When you
have poor money management skills, it makes your life and marriage much more
difficult.
8.
Study God’s idea of marriage:
- The Bible is
jammed packed with advice on marriage.
- Learn God’s
design for marriage now to benefit you later-on down the road.
- When you
pray and ask God to make you into the kind of wife/Husband your future wife/husband
needs, you are preparing yourself for a better marriage.
- Instead of
focusing so much on finding the right person, focus on becoming the right
person.
9.
Learn to managing your home:
- Little
things like cooking may not seem like a big deal until you get married.
- Your guest
will return back if they are well taken care of. You see, food is
sensual.
- Your spouse
will prefer to stay at home if there the needed comfort.
10. Develop a good dress sense
- A good dress
sense showcases the best physical attributes in you.
-
The way you are dressed is the
way you’ll be addressed. Come to think of it, you
respect someone who is dressed well say a nice shirt or blouse and trousers and
you are more likely to despise someone who is shabbily dressed, right?
-
Dressing boosts your
confidence. If you have ever dressed better
than you used to do once or twice, you will agree with me that your confidence
level was at its peak at that moment. Sources of this confidence ranges from
the look full of admiration on the faces of people to the compliments you
receive from them. Seeing reasons to start dressing well yet
- It helps improve your
lifestyle… A better lifestyle results into a better you.
- It attracts the opposite sex. Guys, you might have probably
heard that a well dressed guy is far more attractive than a shirtless dude with
abs. This is not to say you shouldn’t be fit but dressing well + a fit body is
what gives the most desirable look- so next time you are about to put on a
rumpled shirt; think twice! For the ladies, a fitting dress makes you more
beautiful and attractive
- Your first impression on a
person matters a lot if not absolutely. I’m sure you know what this means right
- Dressing well does not mean
that you’ve got to dress up in suits or formal clothes all the time but wearing
what is clean, put together, fits, flatters and most importantly appropriate
for the situation.
Title : PREPARING TO BE A HELP MEET
Description : Gen. 2:18 "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." ...